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Whenever he was supervising her playing, or instructing her, she would feel his eyes upon her as though warming her. When she could do so, she would look up into them, and experience a strange feeling of elation through seeing them shine upon her. Years after, the music master a dim memory, she still had a vague liking for eyes of one particular kind his.
She may even have forgotten what the man was like. But deep in her unconscious mind, where memory is unfailing, the impression has remained. Although she could not recollect those particular eyes, as soon as she saw eyes like them something within her seemed to say: 'I think I could love that man forever 1'
Actually, the young man possessing eyes which reminded her of a pleasurable early experience may not have been at all like the music master. All that was necessary was a sufficient resemblance to arouse the unconscious impulse linked with a forgotten association of pleasurable sensation with one kind of eye. All that is required in the past, to 'set the ball a-rolling', and to start a process which rapidly moves from liking to love.

No impression which reaches us through the senses is ever completely lost. It is stored, as it were, in the unconscious mind. Thus, one may forget the details of the house in which one lived as a child, yet, on seeing a picture of it, say at once: 'I'm sure I've seen this place before, and that house in particular seems very familiar'. The picture has provided the stimulus to recall the old memory, though one's powers of recollection could not do so unaided.
The earliest impressions linked with love have a tremendous influence over all our lives. They lead men and women to 'fall in love'. Sometimes, too, they lead people along strange ways off the normal route, as we shall see later.

When A falls in love at first sight with B, a deep-rooted, unconscious liking for some quite trivial feature, mannerism, or quality may provide the explanation. The trifles which account for selection, often in a flash, may take the form of an article of dress, a tone of voice, a very full moustache or a closely-clipped one, a personal odour or a perfume anything which can stimulate the calling-out from the past of the 'love-ideal' which has been forming vaguely in the mind for years, and which had its beginnings in some early experience.
Whether B falls in love with A or not, the chances of his doing so are increased by the love which A has for him. The very fact that one is loved by another tends to stimulate love for that person. Thus, while A loves B intensely, B may love in an almost reciprocal manner. Or he may not love A at all. Or he may find the process of individual selection speeded up by some quality in her, so that he, too, loves at first sight. When two people are simultaneously stimulated by impressions which yield immediate selection in this manner, we have one of those mutual infatuations which are of terrific intensity while they last. Note: while they last.
The great danger of infatuation lies in the manner in which the lovers build up complete structures of virtue in each other out of some tiny feature, peculiarity, mannerism, or the like edifices which are totally non-existent outside of their own imaginations.

Friends may laugh, and point out to an infatuated man that the girl of his dreams is well, something entirely of his dreams, day and night, and non-existent in fact. He will scorn their laughter. Relatives may point out to the girl all sorts of obvious reasons why she should not marry the man. The girl simply cannot understand their well-meant criticisms. To her the object of her love possesses nothing but virtues.
But gradually the mutual passion spends itself because of its very intensity. Then, with a cooling of the fires, each begins to see faults in the other. They are apt to be intensely annoyed when they do so. They feel almost as if they have been cheated. This irritation often destroys their chances of happiness together. For as the infatuation wanes, so, gradually, does the truth emerge. It shocks those who have seen nothing but perfection in each other! next >>

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