How to increase your sex appeal

That the voice is one of the strongest factors in sex appeal is not surprising. It is the principal instrument of self-expression. That it is often the main desire-stimulating factor in the approach stage of love is due to a feeling that 'here is a voice with which I could well live'. Or 'I should like to be comforted by it, inspired to action by it, obey it's whatever one's temperament demands. But, over and above that, the extremely individual character of the voice it is different from everyone else' accounts for its playing a large part the dominating part in many cases when love leaves the approach stage, and becomes individualized.

The factors which produce general or surface sex appeal we can distinguish, since in the main they appeal to all, though in varying degree. But those which lead from the approach stage to individual selection cannot be charted. Sometimes, in fact, they are non-existent! For people who love attribute all sorts of qualities and virtues to the objects of their affection. Where love reigns, that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' is the very truth. The eyes of love often see what others do not cannot see.
We know that a combination of sexually-stimulating impressions will bestow sex appeal upon those of either sex from whom they emanate. But why, whilst they lead to admiration in the many, they awake love in the few, perhaps in only one person, was a mystery for a long time. It is no longer.
The normal man does not love women in the mass; neither does the normal woman desire 'men'. No, the male seeks a mate of the opposite sex who will arouse within him a desire which is all-embracing. The normal female hopes to love and be loved by one man.
When physical preparation for love has taken place men and women are ready to love and be loved. Their bodies provide the instruments of love. Their minds turn inevitably towards love. They seek deliberately for a mate. And even when they are not consciously engaged in the quest, so deep-rooted is their desire for a mate that their actions are largely governed by the seeking impulse. Thus young men and women and often the not-so-young! who are 'unattached', place themselves in situations favorable to making suitable contacts.
They go to dances, or on cruises, attend social functions, and seek to meet the opposite sex as frequently as possible. In other words, they are placing themselves in positions where they can employ their own love-stimulating powers, and test those of others. They may not reason it out thus. They may not consciously realise why they seek the society of the opposite sex. But fundamentally they are responding to this underlying urge to find a mate.
That this is so is revealed by the eagerness with which they attend some social events often found burdensome by happily-married people, who attend them only because of a sense of duty. We all know that contacts thus made often result in what is called 'falling in love'. But why? What accounts for this mutual attraction, sometimes between people who seem to the outside world hopelessly unsuited to each other? To answer such a question we must know something of the past life of the person concerned.
Take the case of a girl who, when she felt the first stirrings towards the opposite sex, noted with extreme pleasure the serene, shining eyes of her music master by no means an unusual thing. His eyes were to her the most striking feature he possessed. A kind man, all his kindliness seemed to shine out through them. A learned man, all wisdom seemed reflected there in his eyes. next >>

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